Parshat VaYigash serves as the climax of the last few weeks of parshiot, wherein Yosef is finally reunited with his brothers and with Yaakov 22 years after being sold away to slavery.

There is a famous question asked about Yosef’s actions during these 22 years. Why didn’t Yosef try and contact his father to let Yaakov know that he was still alive? Even if Yosef didn’t have the ability as a slave or in jail during the first portion of his time in Egypt, he certainly had the ability to contact Yaakov when he was regent of Egypt? How could he have allowed his father to suffer more emotional pain than necessary?

The Ohr HaChaim comes to Yosef’s rescue. He quotes the Gemarrah in Brachot (33b) where it says “נוח לו לאדם שיפיל עצמו לתוך כבשן האש ואל ילבין פני חברו ברבים – it should be more agreeable to a person that he throw himself into a fiery furnace than embarrass others in public.” This is why Yosef first cleared the Egyptian court of all visitors before revealing himself to his brothers and why Yosef allowed the brothers the opportunity to break the news to Yaakov on their own terms.

In addition, Yosef needed the opportunity to show the brothers in practical terms that he harbored no hard feelings by giving them gifts during their two trips to Egypt.  Rashi explains that when Yosef says “וְהִנֵּה עֵינֵיכֶם רֹאוֹת, וְעֵינֵי אָחִי בִנְיָמִין – And, behold, your eyes see, and the eyes of my brother Binyamin” that Yosef is telling the brothers that just as Binyamin had no part in the sale of Yosef and no negative feelings are harbored against him, so too Yosef feels no ill will towards his other brothers.

The brothers on the other hand needed the opportunity to properly repent from the sale of Yosef. The Rambam in Hilchot Teshuva says that teshuva gemurah (complete teshuva) is only achieved when someone has the opportunity to do the same sin previously committed, yet conquers the temptation. Yosef orchestrates the whole brothers-in-Egypt story to make sure that the brothers have the same chance to get rid of Binyamin as they had with Yosef.

Both of these aspects are important lessons in how true peace is made. The victim must show that he not only forgives the one who has harmed him, but cares about them as well. The victimizer, on the other hand, must accept responsibility for what he has done wrong and repent in full, thus proving that he truly regrets what he has done wrong.

After the brothers have had their opportunity to repent and Yosef successfully reveals himself to his brothers, the brothers are finally called “Bnei Yisrael” instead of “Bnei Yaakov” for the first time. Only now are they able to join together as the founders of the nation of Israel rather than merely a collection of Yaakov’s sons.

In life we all have situations where we have done wrong and been wronged. May we learn the lesson of Yosef and his brothers and realize that by showing care and compassion to those around us can overcome even the most egregious wrongdoings.

 

VaYeishev – Shabbos Chanukah 5770

The Talmud (Yoma 35b) recounts the attempted seduction of Yosef by Potiphar’s wife, with the following conversation between them:
She threatened him, ‘I will have you thrown into prison!’ he replied, ‘Hashem frees those in captivity’ (Tehillim 146). She pushed further, ‘I will cut down your height!’ and he responded, ‘Hashem straightens the bent’ (ibid.). And once more she menaced, ‘I will put out your eyes!’ and he retorted, ‘Hashem gives sight to the blind’ (ibid.).

Yosef’s responses to Potiphar’s wife require clarification. Was he saying that she could do her worst to him because he would be miraculously saved by Hashem? What about the edict that “we do not rely on miracles?” I believe that the answer to this question can be found in another Gemara, in Brachos (28b). We are told that when Rebbi Yochanan ben Zakkai’s students came to visit him on his deathbed Rebbi Yochanan began to cry. His students asked him, “Rebbi why are you crying?” He answered them that he would be crying even if he was only going on trial before a king of flesh and blood whose punishments are not eternal – how much more so is he justified in crying in anticipation of his judgment before the King of Kings, Whose verdicts are not bound by this world!

Yosef’s response is not about miracles – it’s about yiras shamayim, the fear of Heaven. He was not saying that if you incarcerate me, mutilate me or blind me you will not be successful because Hashem will save me. He is making a declaration of his belief in Hashem and His will. Hashem is the Master of the World, ‘He is the One Who frees those in captivity’. The threats of any human being are null and void before the will of Hashem! Yosef Ha’Tzaddik earned his title by putting his yiras shamayim, above any concerns of this world – “…how can I commit this great evil and sin before G-d?!” (Bereishis 39:9) We encounter countless opportunities to earn this title for ourselves in the decisions that we make everyday; let us rise to the challenge.


Good Shabbos and a Freilichin Chanukah!

 

In Parshat VaYeshev we read of the descent of two of Yaakov’s sons. Yosef is sold by his brothers to slavetraders, who take him to Egypt. Yehuda, too, is sent away from his brothers, seemingly as a response for his role in the sale of Yosef.

These two stories run parallel to each other and one can learn much from analyzing them side by side. I would like to focus on just one on of these similarities

Throughout his story, Yosef is seen as a very passive player. Yosef doesn’t object when his father sends him to find his brothers, whom he knows despise him. We don’t even see any mention of Yosef resisting when the brothers throw him into a pit and subsequently sell him. The Torah’s language itself attests to this, saying “וְיוֹסֵף, הוּרַד מִצְרָיְמָה – And Yosef was caused to go down to Egypt. (39:1 בְּרֵאשִׁית

Once in Egypt as well, Yosef seems to take a passive role. As an example, in next week’s Parsha, Yosef explains Pharoah’s dreams telling him that there will be 7 years of plenty and 7 years of famine. Yosef then says:

וְעַתָּה יֵרֶא פַרְעֹה, אִישׁ נָבוֹן וְחָכָם; וִישִׁיתֵהוּ, עַל-אֶרֶץ מִצְרָיִם.

Now therefore let Pharaoh find a man discreet and wise, and place him over the land of Egypt

Even though Yosef must have known that he was the most qualified man for the job, he resists suggesting so. Yosef doesn’t even choose his own wife as the Pasuk says וַיִּתֶּן-לוֹ אֶת-אָסְנַת בַּת-פּוֹטִי פֶרַע כֹּהֵן אֹן, לְאִשָּׁה – And [Pharoah] gave [Yosef] Osnat daughter of Poti Phera priest of On for a wife.

In fact, Chazal tell us that the one time Yosef did try and control his own destiny, by asking Pharoah’s butler to speak to Pharoah for him, HaShem punished him with two extra years in prison for not having proper faith.

Yehuda, on the other hand, is an active participant in his stories. He suggests selling Yosef and then chooses to leave his family (וַיֵּרֶד יְהוּדָה – 38:1 בְּרֵאשִׁית And Yehuda went down) and find himself a wife. He chooses Tamar to marry his son Er and insists that his son Onan marry Tamar after Er’s death. After Onan also dies Yehuda prevents Tamar from marrying his third son Shelah.

Even in Tamar’s deception of Yehuda, we see how Yehuda plays an active role as it says “וַיֵּט אֵלֶיהָ And he turned to her“. Yehuda is certainly active when he saves Tamar’s life by publicly admitting that he was the one who impregnated her. Finally, later in the story, as Yosef is trying to keep Binyamin in Egypt, Yehuda is the one who steps forward to insist that Binyamin come back with them (וַיִּגַּשׁ אֵלָיו יְהוּדָה Then Yehuda came near to him)

In Egypt, Yosef was responsible for the physical well-being of the country by storing up food during the time of plenty. Yehuda, on the other hand was responsible for the Jewish people’s spiritual well-being. We see this idea explained by Rashi on Bereishit 46:28. When going down to Egypt, Yaakov sends Yehuda ahead לְהוֹרֹת לְפָנָיו to direct him and Rashi tells us

להורות לפניו לתקן לו בית תלמוד שמשם תצא הוראה
להורות לפניו means to establish for him a house of study, from which teaching would emanate.

We see here how even though we have to work hard for our physical sustenance, like Yosef, we must always realize that we are really just passive players who receive only what HaShem decides to grant us. Our spiritual growth, however, as Yehuda demonstrates, demands continual action and effort in order to be successful.

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